It’s the day you’ve been waiting for for months on end – years, even. The RSVPs are in, the dress is chosen, the flowers are ordered, everything is planned. It’s all finally started to feel real.
Getting all the way to this stage, then, only to be faced with the prospect of postponing can feel heartbreaking.
This is very much the reality that many brides are facing right now, with the outbreak of COVID-19, which now has the UK in official lockdown. If your big day has been affected, countless thoughts and worries are likely swimming around in your mind. But – trust me – there may well be some positives that come from this.
It’s okay to feel sad
First and foremost though, let me just remind you of one thing: it’s absolutely okay to feel upset and disappointed. Yes, the outbreak has caused far-reaching chaos, and yes, there will be people whose situations are worse, but you don’t have to justify your sadness to yourself. You needn’t feel guilty.
Your wedding will be one of – if not the – biggest day of your life so far, so being upset is a perfectly natural reaction. Allow yourself to feel disappointed, to cry, to vent. But remember, there might just be a bright side to look on, too.
Time is very much of the essence when you’re wedding planning – it can sometimes feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day. If you’ve had to postpone your nuptials, though, you have just bought a whole lot more of it.
Perhaps there were things on your wishlist that you didn’t have time to organise; those special little details that will really make your day unique. Maybe you were rushing to get all the favours ready, or were beginning to regret deciding to make your own place cards. Perhaps you were still trying to work out what to do about things like signs and directions for guests. Now, you’re able to really home in on those details, take your time doing things that would otherwise have been rushed. Enjoy not working under pressure.
No matter how far in advance you planned your wedding date, there were likely some people who weren’t going to be able to make it. People who are special to you and that you desperately wanted to share your day with. Perhaps a wedding supplier that you’d had your eye on wasn’t available, or maybe you’d even contacted me about doing your hair and make-up but I was already booked.
Well, what about your new date? You may just find that rearranging your wedding means that those would-be guests can now attend, or that I might be free to come and help you look your best on yourspecial day. It’s certainly worth checking.
Worth the wait
Not only might you had to postpone your wedding, but social distancing has meant you’ve had to put off seeing friends and family in any capacity. Your wedding, then, is going to be quite the reunion!
Just think how amazing it’s going to feel, celebrating your big day after all this time apart, hugging friends and being surrounded by so many people. It might be the first time in a long while that many of your guests have seen each other too, which will only add to the festive, celebratory atmosphere.
So, while having to rearrange your wedding is a huge disappointment, there are reasons to think positively.
Remember, this situation is only temporary. That said, it’s a good idea to be organised and get in touch as soon as possible if you have your new date or if you are one of the 2021 brides and would like me to take care of your hair and make-up. My diary for 2021 weddings is already getting busy and will likely get full much quicker due to such a large number of postponements.